Faith, Family, God, Love, Marriage

When You Feel Helpless

When you feel helpless, feel hopeful knowing God is in control. Recently I have been going through many trials in my life. Big ones. Tough ones. Lots of changes. Lots of unknowns. And lots of “God, what the crap is happening?” Things that are out of my control.


I like being in control. Ever since I was little, being in control was just easy. Maybe it has to do with being the youngest? You whine a little and eventually you get what you want. I mean I had strict parents, but I never really didn’t get my way..

I’m used to being in control. My husband has never been a push over, but he has always given me what I’ve wanted for the most part, because he likes making me happy. He likes making me smile. That’s just the kind of man he is.

However, due to mistakes I’ve made in the past, things in my life are happening and I have no say in the situation. For the first time in my life I have to shut up, suck it up, and let what happens happen. As I told you in a previous post, my husband and I are going through a separation. He will be leaving in a few days and I have no control over it.

I feel helpless. Hopeless. Alone. Unwanted. Unloved. Every kind of emotion you can go through when something like this happens. I will let you know though that the reason behind this separation is because of something I had done. He wouldn’t be leaving if it weren’t for my selfishness and horrible mistake.

The guilt we sometimes have to bear due to our own choices is sometimes unbearable. It is so painstakingly hard to live with yourself knowing that you’ve basically torn your family apart.

Listen to me carefully, we all make mistakes. We all mess up. We all are sinful beings. None of us are without sin. None of us are without shame. We are not blameless. Yet, all of us look the same through God’s eyes. Sometimes it is hard to see God’s love for you when you are in this overwhelming pit of darkness, but we can rest assured knowing He will bring us out. He promises us this..

“He will wipe away all tears from their eyes. There will be no more death, no more grief or crying or pain. The old things have disappeared.” Revelation 21:4

He does not see our mistakes. He sees our repentance and our willingness to start fresh, to stop our sinful ways and say to Him, “I’m sorry God. Forgive me for my selfishness. Use me for your Glory.”

God will never give up on you. Even if everyone around you turns their backs on you, He never will.

“Come to Me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28

In our weakness, God is strong. There is no need to feel hopeless! God is in control and always has been.

His answer was: “My grace is all you need, for my power is greatest when you are weak.” I am most happy, then, to be proud of my weakness in order to feel the protection of Christ’s power over me. 2 Corinthians 12:9

One last thing, don’t stop praying!!! It is so easy to let the thoughts in your head take over, please don’t do this. God wants you to bring your hurts and pains to Him. Do this instead of letting your emotions get the best of you.

“Let your hope keep you joyful, be patient in your troubles, and pray at all times.” Romans 12:12

I pray that God allows today be a fantastic day for you full of prayer and joyfulness!

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  1. Jolleen,
    I was very sorry to read that your husband is separating from you. I appreciated your humility and transparency in acknowledging that it has to do with your sin and selfishness.

    If you don’t mind me asking, has he seen you take this much responsibility? Have you asked him to forgive you without making any excuses?

    I will pray for your marriage, that your husband will forgive you, and that you two can be reconciled.
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    1. Thank you for the kind words. To answer your questions, yes and yes. I’ve said all the words I can say to him. I am waiting on God’s timing and hoping forgiveness comes. I appreciate your prayers very much..

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