Reflect on all of the good in your life and be thankful.
Since November is here, I think it would be an appropriate time to reflect on what God has given me and blessed me with. I will be the first to openly say that everything I have, I do not deserve, and everything I have is not from my own doing, but from God.
I have not been the best mom, the best wife, the best sister, or the best daughter. Not even close. I have made many mistakes in my life and to know and see how much God still loves me even with all of my flaws, well, it does help me realize just how blessed I truly am.
He loves me when I’m being selfish and just have to buy that starbucks drink, because I am a straight-up addict. He loves me when I’m stubborn and I refuse to let my side of the argument go. He loves me when I’m rude and roll my eyes at the old lady in line in front of me taking an HOUR to write out a check at the register (I mean who does that?!). He loves me when I’m mean and yell at him for doing something I don’t like. He loves me when I’m lazy and refuse to get up and cook or clean. And you guys know I’m a stay-at-home mom so it’s part of the job 😉 The list goes on and on. Point is, the guy loves me, even with all of my obvious imperfections.
When I look at him, I know that he still loves me. I have a husband who never gave up on me and continues to never give up on me. He truly loves me unconditionally and I DO NOT deserve this man.
I am the last person who deserves the kind of love he gives. His love is something that is out of the norm. And you need to understand that he should have given up on me MANY times. I don’t want to get too into my personal life at this time, but I want you guys to know that there were many times in the past when I said I was done with my marriage. I wanted divorce. I wanted out. I had had enough of the hurt and pain that was falsely filling my mind.
Not only was divorce against my beliefs as a Christian because there were no grounds for it, it was such an incredibly selfish thought on my part. I gave up. I didn’t want to try anymore. There was a short period of time where I convinced myself that divorce was what God wanted. That my friends, is called the devil trying to tear your family apart. Now days more than ever we see families being ripped apart by divorce. What is it, 50% of marriages end in divorce?
Thank God my husband fought for me. Thank God he chose me instead of the easy way out. He had so many opportunities to leave, and it would have been justified. He could have had out, and instead he chose to keep our family together and love me.
I cannot express in words the deep amount of adoration I have for this man.
He is the true love of my life and no one will ever compare to this man. Not even close.
He makes me laugh, makes me smile, makes me feel safe. He is IT. He makes me the happiest person in the world. Cheesy, I know. But it’s true. And I have taken him for granted too many times in the past.
I mistakenly fell into a deep, dark place in my life because I was fooled into thinking I was being wronged and hurt by my husband, and that it wasn’t fair.
I’ve been married for almost 10 years now and let me tell you, there will be many tears, plenty of anger and resentment, lots of frustration, and unfortunately even some pain. I wish I could say that marriage doesn’t have these emotions present, but I would be lying if I said that.
My marriage has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. It is a work in progress. I am a work in progress. No one is perfect. My husband isn’t perfect, but HE IS INCREDIBLE. And I am choosing to look at this man and set aside his flaws and love him for who he is. And he has done the same for me more times than I have ever deserved. THAT is what marriage is.
DON’T GIVE UP!
Lift your concerns and desires up to God. Give Him your worries and doubts. He will answer your prayers. It may not be the exact way you want Him to answer, but He will. You can rest assured, He will.
Be thankful for your spouse today and everyday. God gave that person to you. Cherish that person. Love that person. Spoil that person. Give yourself to that person completely. Be Christ-centered for that person and watch your marriage bloom. Be THANKFUL today.
Marriage is two imperfect people who are willing to see each others beauty regardless of their flaws.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5