You know the ones… The evil thoughts that creep up while you are getting ready for an interview, or preparing dinner, or dressing up to go out, or maybe you’re just sitting at home doing nothing. Whatever it is, those negative, evil little thoughts are there. They’re there to tell you you’re fat, or ugly, or worthless, or pathetic. That you aren’t good enough. They can appear anytime, any place, and immediately bring you down and into a deep depression, making you feel like a low life. Have you been there?
Maybe these thoughts came from you, or maybe they came from someone else. What’s hard is when you hear those words from someone you love. Someone you trusted. People you don’t know who are just bored and passing time (internet trolls) are easier to brush off. But those people in your life who make you feel like you never should have been born, yeah those people, they shouldn’t be in your life. Period. Nay, they don’t DESERVE to be in your life.
When you have people around you who constantly put you down and make you feel worthless, I would encourage you to let those people go and realize they are only holding you back. Giving the negativity in your mind all the nourishment it needs to grow and flourish in your head. It will inevitably consume you.
This subject is near to my heart and I am still to this day trying to find myself and get rid of the negative thoughts people have put there year after year after year. I’m not saying people can’t change. But if you keep saying that to yourself and keep giving those people chance after chance after chance, you will end up destroying yourself. You are saying, it’s “okay” to treat me like this. And I think we all know, it’s not.
You are not worthless. You are not there to be a punching bag for someone. You are worth more than that. I am worth more than that.
What happened to me all those years ago? At some point I stopped fighting for myself and stopped sticking up for myself. And I just started believing everything I heard. I was young and impressionable. But I have grown up over the past 10 years. It sure has taken me a while to actually get there. I’m mean, I’m almost 30. And maybe that is part of why I’m feeling this way. I’m realizing I am no longer a child.
If you have said goodbye to the toxic people in your life who have done nothing but bring you down, I applaud you. Because you have showed you’re stronger than what they said you were. And they were wrong.
But what if you still have those thoughts, those words, creeping up into your head?
“You are worthless.”
“You can’t do anything right.”
“No one would ever love you.”
“You’re not the catch you think you are.”
What if you let them take over? Let’s think about this. Those idiots who say these things to you, are they right? Honestly, ARE THEY RIGHT?
You should have answered NOOOO. In no way should anyone tell you who YOU are and what YOU can accomplish in YOUR life and how YOU think. YOU make your own decisions. See the pattern here? Sure everybody makes mistakes. And I’ve made more than I could ever count. But that doesn’t mean I am worthless or pathetic. The people saying these things to us are in a bad place. Because they have the need to put other people down to make themselves feel better. And that right there is the biggest type of insecurity you can have. If anyone is pathetic, it’s them. They have nothing better to do. And it’s sad.
In the end, you are your own worst enemy. Because after you hear those words, it’s very hard to unhear them. They linger, and sit on your shoulder, and hang out, and then right when you need encouragement or positive thoughts, they come out and suck the positive thoughts right out of you.
Here’s how I’m conquering these evil, FALSE thoughts.
- Do something for yourself. Something you’ve always wanted to do. And don’t let anyone help you. Conquer it all on your own. For me, it’s passing my BRE exam in a few days.
- Fill your head with positive thoughts. Repeat to yourself all of the blessings God has given you. I broke down the other day and to combat this feeling, I immediately started saying, out loud, everything God had given me recently. My kids, my house, my health, my family, etc… Once you start, your modd will immediately start to lift.
- Take a walk. Spend time alone with God. Read the Word. It WILL help.
- Pray. Simple enough. P.R.A.Y.
- Find a new hobby. Something you love and makes you happy. If it makes you happy, it will cheer you up!
- Exercise. “Exercise creates endorphins. Endorphins make people happy. Happy people don’t kill their husbands.” (You better know what that quote is from!!!!!)
Please realize that you are not what some jerk said you are.You are what God created. And you are beautiful, special, smart, and WORTH something to a lot of people. Love God and love yourself. Don’t give up. God is there with you. Stay strong and hold on. It will get better.