As some of you may know, I have been a stay-at-home Mom for the past 8 years or so. Give or take. And it has been such a joy of mine and a blessing to have been able to stay home with my kids this entire time. I will forever be grateful to God for giving me that opportunity. It’s something I will always treasure and look back and smile. Every temper tantrum, every explosive poopy diaper, every tear, every hug, every “I love you”, every beautiful and terribly hard moment, I was there for. That’s something not every mom can say they were able to do. And believe me, I don’t take it lightly. I count my blessings.
But our kids are a little older now and are all in school and I was starting to feel as though I should be doing more. More for myself, as well as for my family. Financially, we have been fine. Sometimes it’s tight, and it gets hard to stay a float, but it has never gotten to a point where I NEEDED to get a job. But the financial responsibility has always been 100% on my husband. It was starting to really take it’s tole on him. He has always handled the responsibility very well and always knew that he was the provider and it was his job to get us money since I was taking care of the kids. But who wouldn’t eventually get overwhelmed?
I got where he was coming from. I knew that now was the time to start looking for a job. Keep in mind, I haven’t worked in 8 years so this was a very overwhelming and long process. I have only worked retail and I figured that was the place to start. application after application got sent in with absolutely no reply or call for an interview. I started to get depressed and was putting myself down a lot because in my mind I thought I couldn’t do it. No one would want to hire an out of work Mom with no degree or experience. But I kept on trying. Filling out applications, and clicking submit. I knew if God wanted this to happen for us, it would.
Low and behold, I received a call. I was so happy. Finally! This was literally 4 or 5 weeks after submitting the application. But they finally called. Getting ready for that interview, oh my….. I was probably more nervous than I was during my first pregnancy. The horrible anxious feelings and thoughts of what was going to happen. But I sucked it up, put on my big girl pants and went inside the store. Sure it’s only retail. But ya know what? It was still an interview, and it meant something. It meant possible extra income for my family. It meant being able to have conversations with people who weren’t 7 and 5. It meant me getting out of the house and making something of myself. Me, doing something just for me. It was a big deal.
Turns out I still know how to perform in an interview. Aced it. Got my second interview and began working a few days later. The nerves. The horrible nerves! It’s hard transitioning from being home 24/7 to working part-time every week. I’ve been at it now for about a month. Getting into my groove and loving every second of it. The people who work retail are brave souls. I’ll tell you that right now. Some customers are GIGANTIC pains in everyone’s butts. And you know I’m not lying here. People treat retail workers like low life’s. And it’s a hard job. And if you’ve never worked retail, you won’t fully understand.
Some may look down on Christian moms who aren’t at home all the time. But it just doesn’t work out that way for everyone. Sometimes moms need to work. Or you know what? Sometimes they WANT to work. GASP! I know. The thought of a woman who wants to be away from her children for a few hours a day, yikes! (If you couldn’t tell, that’s my sarcastic voice.)
Look, the one thing I want to point out here is that, not every family can be identical. Not every family will feel led by God to have one SAH parent and one working parent. And that’s OKAY. These days, Christians are so quick to judge and open their mouths and point their stupid fingers and say, “that’s not what God wants!” Something to keep in mind, no one can tell you what God wants YOU to do. Know one else knows except you. You pray your prayers to him and he answers you about those prayers. No one else can know the answer, only you. So don’t let anyone get you down for your choice if you believe that’s what HE wants.
If you are a mom who is transitioning from SAHM to working mom, comment below! Tell me about your experience. Do you love working? Do you hate being away from your kids?
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Prov. 3:5-6”
“Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. John 14:1”