One of my favorite posts that I’ve written was “8 Things I Want My Boys To Know Before Marriage”. And I thought to myself, why haven’t I written a note to my daughter as well?! So without further ado, here are some things I want my daughter to know before she walks down the aisle..
To My Beautiful, Strong-Willed Baby Girl..
- Find A Good Christian Guy. I said the same thing to your brothers about finding good girls, and it’s no different for you. Being equally yoked is something God encourages. However, when I met your dad, we had different beliefs. I was hesitant to even start dating him, but look what would have happened if I had completely blown him off! You wouldn’t be here! Dad is now a Christian and we have the same beliefs and I think it does make it a lot easier. But don’t disregard a man if he has different beliefs than you. God made it work out for the best with me and your dad. So keep that in mind 😉
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14
- God Comes First. Your Husband Comes Second. Kids Come Third. That may sound weird or harsh to some, but this is what God commands from us. Put God first and everything else will fall into place. Your relationship with God has to be your #1 priority.
“You shall have no other God’s before Me” Exodus 20:3
- Be A Strong Woman, But Don’t Be Your Husband’s Mom. So as you may know, your Mama struggles with this one. As wives, we are not here to point out every flaw, every imperfection, and every mistake our husbands make. No. We are here to lift them up, encourage them, respect them, and love them unconditionally. Don’t boss your hubby around. He will only resent you for it. And he’s not a baby. So don’t treat him like one.
- There’s No Rule That Says You HAVE To Be A SAHM. You know that your Mama loves being a SAHM to you and your brothers. And I’m so thankful that God gave me the opportunity to stay home with you guys. But if God hasn’t called that for you, that’s OKAY. Whatever He wants is what will happen. Don’t stress if you work, and don’t stress if you’re home. Both can be amazing and exactly what God called you to do. Don’t ever feel guilty doing what God called you to do. He has His plan. Be happy where you are and be content.
- Respect Him. It may sound like the easiest, simplest thing in the world to do, but sometimes it can be quite hard. Especially since you are the child of this strong, opinionated mommy. I open my mouth WAY too much. And you might end up having the same issue when you’re older. Don’t disrespect your hubby. Keep the lips closed when they need to be closed! Okay, maybe I’m preaching to myself here.. Instead of nagging, compliment him! Respect goes a long way for men, honey. This can be hard if you have a husband who isn’t loving, and I hope you never have to experience that. But just remember this verse-
“Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
- Be Submissive To Your Husband. You know that Mommy is sometimes too strong and hates for Daddy to tell her what to do! BUT, God does command us to submit to our husbands in a loving way. Young lady, this does not mean let your husband walk all over you and boss you around. This means have faith in your hubby that he can make some decisions on his own, if he is following God and believes that it is the right choice. I truly believe that a marriage should include both husband and wife working together through things for it to really work. But when it comes down to it, have faith in your husband. Let him be the man. Let him be the spiritual leader. Let him be the strong thread that holds your family together.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
- Don’t Blame Your Hubby For Your Mistakes. There will be a lot of times when it is easier and makes more sense for you to blame others for mistakes that you make. But this is not acceptable. Fess up to your mistakes. Don’t blame other people. Repent. And LEARN from it. Mommy has a hard time with this one too. It’s easier to just say, “well you did this and THAT’S why I did what I did”. Just don’t go there. You control your actions, no one else controls you.
- Don’t Dress Immodestly. Baby girl, I shouldn’t even have to say this, because I know how we are raising you and I know you will hear me say this a lot, probably while you’re in your teenager years. But just in case you forget as you get older… Don’t dress like a hoochy! Your husband won’t like it, I won’t like it, and your Dad DEFINITELY won’t like it. The only attention you will get is from men who want you for your body. And that’s NOT the type of man you want. Don’t show your goods to anyone other than your husband. Be respectful of him and save that for HIM. God commands it..
“Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments”. 1 Timothy 2:9
- Take It Easy On Your MIL. Okay, so every single wife goes through this. The Mother-in-Law struggle. Maybe your MIL will be overly attached to your hubby. Or she won’t like you at first. Or whatever the case may be. Give her time. Having to give her son over to you will be hard. And I know when the time comes for me to do that for your brothers, I will be heart broken and crying for days.. So just take it easy on her okay?
- Be A Loving Mom. I know that when you decide to have kids, you are going to be the most loving and wonderful mother. You’re only 5 and you are absolutely amazing with your baby brother. I light up when I see you taking care of him and loving on him. He adores you. And when you have little babies of your own, I know you will be just as loving and amazing.
- Pray For Your Family Every Single Day. For your kids to grow up to know God. For your husband to have the strength to lead your family. For reassuane that God’s got everything under control. Pray. Don’t ever stop.
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” Philippians 4:6
“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you” Matthew 7:7
I know, Baby Girl, that you will grow up to be a loving, sweet, strong, passionate, God fearing woman. Because I pray for you everyday. This Mama loves you so, so much and I hope I show that to you every single day. You are my one and only daughter and that makes you special. You will always be Mommy’s little girl. Follow your dreams, whatever they may be. Follow them. Chase them! Don’t stop till you succeed. I love you…